He deploys both gentleness and self-determination, with some allowance for ambiguity. You see this kind of speech in “Modern Family” on ABC, and Reid Ewing mastered it in his three short films on being “free” (especially the last one). The language is a little more informal and loose than what I have been accustomed to in my own personal interaction with college-age and high-school age students. Maybe they are a little more cautious around me.
It's a good question to ask Ellar Coltrane, what is it like to grow up as another character, who seems so much part of the self. The same question gets posed to Lorelei, too.
Update: Jan. 16, 2015
The film won Best Dramatic Picture at the Golden Globes and is nominated for Best Picture at the Oscars.